Forgiveness… It’s such a hard thing to do, yet it can be so liberating to the soul. What makes forgivesness difficult to do is how we think of it and consequently intrepret it. Many of us believe that when we forgive it means everything shall return back to what and how it was before a certain incident has occurred which of course makes it difficult for us to actually forgive when thinking about it in such a limited way.
How can you forget the unforgettable? How can you forgive the unforgivable? There are indeed benefits for forgiveness and in order to enjoy them you don’t really need to to go that far when faced with a certain situation. What is vital is the fact that we make the decision to move forward, to let go of the old hurt. We don’t have to overlook what has been done. What’s wrong is still wrong. You don’t have or need to invite the person back into your live if that is what makes you feel better. What we need to do is to allow ourselves to release all the negative emotions associated with that person responsible for causing the pain or the discomfort. As long as we hold onto the pain, we are choosing to allow that person’s past actions to continue to hurt us. The interesting fact here is that we can also choose to stop the cycle of hurt by simply not allowing this person’s actions or behaviors hurt us anymore. That is a conscious choice though.
When someone causes us pain either deliberatly or without realzing it, we need to be aware of how that makes us feel. We need to understand that when we let go of that pain for our own sake. It is not because we are weak we decide to forgive.
Think of the painful situations, and think of them in detail and lastly allow yourself to feel the hurt. Do whatever you need to so that your hurt comes on the surface, you may want to cry, you may get angry and feel you want to shout or you may feel you just want to be silent.
After that make a conscious decsion and choose to actually let go of the pain you feel. Letting go fo the paoin does not minmize its effect it does, however, validate your own worth as a person. Choose to regain back your personal powe to be able to heal your wounded heart. Choose to release the negative and hurtful emotions you are feeling. Choose to heal and move on.
Forgive others , forgive yourself, heal your heart and have a heart of gold which is capable of letting go when it needs to and wait for the good things to come your way..