We struggle with our worries and problems every day in our lives. Sometimes, we even struggle with unnecessary stresses and burdens. When our ability to be positive in finding solutions decreases, we tend to be more negative, which makes it harder to endure. This is when you need to “work” on your patience. The good news is that patience is a mental skill, one that can be practiced and eventually mastered, even by the most impatient person.
We often hear about exercising patience as it pertains to something else, like raising children or starting a business. The idea of cultivating patience for its own sake gets little attention, but there are some strong and compelling reasons for doing so. Impatience makes us lose our perspective, which hinders our power to create what we want and raises the chances of attracting more of what we don’t want.
I believe that losing patience is a means of misusing spiritual power. Impatience also has a negative impact on our bodies because it generates stress, which elevates blood pressure, thereby weakening the body’s internal organs and immune system. Impatience often produces haste, which prevents you from making right decisions, but rather the kind of decisions you may later regret.
Patience, on the other hand, empowers us at all levels. Cultivating it requires the desire to change in addition to having a good strategy to do so: discernment and persistence. When you find yourself on the verge of losing patience, try one or more of the following techniques:
- Don’t fall for the demanding behaviors of close people who act impatiently.
- Look within to understand why you react impatiently to certain situations.
- Feed your mind with the appropriate self-talk for the occasion you are facing. This is crucial to mastering patience.
- Use creative visualization to re-frame situations that try your patience.
- Use meditation as a therapy to grow your patience and de-stress.
- Write notes to remind yourself to be more patient. Examples could be:
“Patience and fortitude conquer all things.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
“If you are patient in a moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.” — Chinese Proverb
“He that can have patience can have what he will.” — Benjamin Franklin
Lastly, if you tend to become quickly impatient, make sure that your blood sugar is always balanced. Do something that you like for yourself every once in a while to enhance your tolerance range and be sure to get enough sleep. When your mind and body are rested, you are better able to deal with situations with more patience.
Life is a journey, we each have our own duties and tasks to fulfill and accomplish. Some have it lighter and easier than others, and even those have their own struggles which we may perceive as ‘simple’, yet they are still their struggles. Others have it heavier and harder.
People who are ‘aware’ know that staying healthy and positive and using the power of now may turn anything into a light and simple burden. They choose to change their heavy burdens into ‘simple’ ones. They enjoy life with all that it brings. They enjoy the now, don’t worry about the future and don’t blame past actions. They are in harmony with themselves, with life and with the cosmos. They count on time to solve their stresses and time always is in their favor.
Be patient, the best is yet to come!
“The strongest of all warriors are these two: time and patience.” — Leo Tolstoy